He Pretty Much Always Has Me at Hello
In my book, looks aren’t everything, but there’s no denying attraction is required for a relationship to be more than friendship.
I’ve sung the praises of Match.com … not because I’ve found true love … yet, but because it has helped me get past the obstacle of figuring out where to meet men.
However, Match is a unique beast when it comes to attraction. Instead of meeting someone in the flesh, you meet them in cyberspace, where attraction, rather than being revealed instantly, is slowly unraveled. It starts with his profile (and picture). Then it’s e-mails/IMs. A phone call usually, but not always, follows. The final step is meeting in person. Face to face, I’ve found, is the only way to really know for certain if the attraction is there.
My problem … as I told my friend Cory about eight months ago when he told me not to get my hopes up over a guy that was jacking me around … girls get their hopes up at hello. (At least I think it’s all girls, but maybe it’s me. Ladies?)
Unfortunately, with some guys it can take weeks (with one it took a month!) to transition from e-mailing/IMing to meeting in person. By then, I’m always a little invested. And when it doesn’t work, I’m a lot deflated … even if it’s me that doesn’t feel the attraction (as it was today).