Am…musings

I believe in the power of thought … positive thoughts bring positives into your life … negative thought — not so good. When I read that I should make a list of the qualities I wanted in an ideal mate … thus I would attract such a mate … a list I made.

I’d like to keep some things private, but here are a few of the highlights …
• Kind
• Smart
• Patient
• Respectful of my dreams
• A true partner

In line with my power-of-thought belief, I try to stay positive about my “Match-capades” and other online-dating adventures. I’ve met a few … ok several … doosies in the year I’ve been on Match.com, but I try to think of them in terms of funny stories to tell friends … and maybe someday … the grandkids. I also look at them as opportunities to learn and refine the list.

Unfortunately, in the past seven days, I’ve uncovered three additions … one good, one funny and one that I thought would have been a given.

1. The good … confident. This is something, as an outsider, you just can’t fix. A person has to find confidence on their own and while I feel badly about pulling the plug, I’d rather not be part of the process.
2. The funny … not named Herb. (Here’s the post-date update …. He called and left a message. I called back and left a message. He called back … no message. And I’m thinking that’s the best I can do because I know in the end … as foolish as it is … I can’t get past it.)
3. The one I thought would have been a given … single/available. He lives out of town (thus really no big expectations) and came clean after about two weeks of e-mailing, but sadly after all … a girl gets her hopes up at hello.

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