PSA for Single Women
Ok, I’m writing a book review of a 4-year-old book, but I so wish someone would have forced me to read it two years ago. It would have saved me tons of time. It also would have rescued my friends from countless conversations as I tried to figure (various) him(s) out. Sorry to those of you reading!
So … I’m highly recommending “He’s Just Not That Into You” by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo as a public service for single women (and the friends they lament to).
The book addresses the “dating limbo” of unsatisfying relationships that women can’t seem to let go of. It outlines various scenarios and excuses women make. Not surprisingly, each scenario comes to the same conclusion … “he’s just not that into you.”
In terms of my love life, I’ve dated Mr. “Too Busy” and Mr. “Only Wants to Have Sex,” but I recognized those guys for what they were without the wisdom of the book. However, Mr. “Mixed Signals,” Mr. “Unable to Commit” and Mr. “Otherwise Committed” (yes, he had a live-in girlfriend and no, I’m not at all proud of that one) tripped me up. I’m the girl who always wonders, “what if” (as in, “what if I don’t give this a chance and he’s the one”), but really this book is right … while “he’s not that into you” sounds harsh, it’s more about women deserving someone who worships us, not someone we have to wonder “what if” about.
Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule. My neighbor lent me this book (I can’t remember why. We may have been talking about the movie coming out soon, but I secretly think she was trying to help me clear my head of the cobwebs left by Mr. “Otherwise Committed.”). Her friends gave it to her back in 2004, when R. wouldn’t commit and she was having trouble moving on. They broke up, but apparently he really just was into her because now, they’re happily married.